by the Rev. Dr. Jon Shuler, PhD
As an American, I am a congenital “hugger.” What the Italians call an embrazio warms my heart and soul when I receive one from a friend. But as the country of my birth moves further and further away from the truth of the gospel, the frequency of receiving such an embrace has diminished greatly.
To be “touched” by others, let alone hugged by those we do not know well, has become for many a rare experience. Yet the meaning of such a sign when appropriately given—“you are loved and welcomed into my life”–is a deeply desired human need. I will never forget my first visit to Uganda, where the cultural tradition is so wonderfully embracing, and the multitude of times I was greeted with a warm smile and the words: “You are welcome here.” Is that true when strangers meet us? When they come to our churches?
How welcoming are our churches?
If we are talking about the “public” welcome–general hospitality and superficial kindness–my experience is that the answer is “yes.” Great progress in these points has been made in many of our churches over the last generation or two. But if we mean a welcome into the real life of a believing person, family, or small extended community of faith, then most often my answer must be “no.” The average Anglican congregation, at its best, has very few avenues of welcome into that place where authentic Christian discipleship will be seen and can be learned. We do not normally have that sort of structured life in our congregations, at least easily open to the outsider. And again and again, in many of our churches, we do not have that sort of life at all. We are often welcoming people to a body without arms to embrace them.
Learning to embrace the lost
My family loved me as a child. I had 16 first cousins in my small hometown. My maternal grandparents worshipped in the same congregation as I did. Three neighboring households, within a few doors, did so as well. Church, family, and community were a seamless whole for me for nearly 17 years. When I married and had a family of my own, it just seemed normal to have many friends and acquaintances in our life. I am sad to say it took a long time for me to realize how unusual my experience was, and how lonely and isolated many of those who came to our services were. I did not realize how few truly happy marriages there were in the congregations I served. I did not realize how few parents knew how to disciple their children. My blindness caused much of my preaching to fall on deaf ears. People did not know what to do with the truth of the gospel in any practical way. Even the converted were primarily taught the “behaviors of the church,” and not what would spread the kingdom of God. They had no arms to embrace the lost.
Preaching the gospel from the pulpit, and teaching it whenever possible, will bear fruit, for “faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the Word of Christ” (Romans 10:17), but discipleship must be learned in relationship with real people who are themselves trying to follow Jesus with their whole heart. How are outsiders to the faith, let alone half-discipled church shoppers, to find that place? God intends every Christian home to be such a place. He intends every true believer to be capable of extending such a welcome. He expects it of every Christian marriage.
Practicing true hospitality
What I am calling the “arms to embrace them” is a way of life Holy Scripture reveals–to those with eyes to see–on almost every page of the New Testament. God’s people practiced true hospitality in the time of the Apostolic Church. People got to know real people who were followers of Jesus, and it did not happen in the Synagogue. So whether it was Andrew finding Peter, Priscilla and Aquilla inviting Apollos to their home, Lydia prevailing upon the Apostle Paul to come and stay at her house, or the pious Gentile Cornelius gathering all his family and friends to hear Peter, unbelievers saw real flesh and blood people who were followers of Jesus. Their pattern of life provided all sorts of ways–in addition to gathering on the Lord’s Day–for people who were not yet convinced to be embraced by a community being made new in the love of Christ Jesus.
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